When you’re ill you need more ‘me’ time than anyone else, just to feel a bit better.
For me that is silence, resting, even sleeping. I don’t like to do this during the day but I do have migraines every month so then I have to. If I don’t I will feel bad for 2+ weeks instead of just one.
At night I like to go to bed at 10 and wake up at 8, I don’t fall asleep very fast and I wake up to go to the bathroom once or twice every night so in the end I will get 7-8 hours sleep total. This is fine normally.
If I can do all these things, do what I need to do when my body asks for it, I can do a lot more in a day, so it’s very important, but what if you can’t?
What if something prevents you from doing what’s right for your body that’s out of your control?
I’ve been dealing with this for several years now. We live in an appartment, which is noisy, ofcourse, but our new neighbours are incredibly selfish. It doesn’t matter if you go and talk to them, how nice and understanding you are, all they can tell you is ‘we have no parties, no music’, yeah great, but I still wake up every morning at 5 and can’t go to bed before 1 in the morning, so be quiet please! Nope. It doesn’t matter.
I finally called the police, at first to ask if I was right, that what I was dealing with isn’t normal, and it isn’t. He then talked to them, telling them that if they kept making so much noise, they would be removed from their home. He told me that they were shocked, so ofcourse I thought it would stop. Nope.
Now they have family over, which means 2 people + at least 5 family members, one of which is a 2 year old kid. I know you can’t tie a kid to a chair, but there is a thing called ‘keeping him busy’, giving him toys or some paint or anything to keep him quiet? Yeah they gave him something alright, one of those walking cars and a ball. The one even noisier than the other. The ball sounds like a bowling ball coming through our ceiling and the car gives so much noise I can’t even talk on the phone anymore. If he’s not using either of them he is running around. From 8 in the morning until 10 at night, non stop.
They told us and the police they would be here for 2 weeks. Guess what, this is week 3 already.
So on top of only being able to sleep when everyone upstairs is sleeping I now can’t even get my rest during the day and I feel worse every day.
What do you do? I keep contacting the police, I keep contacting everyone that might be able to help, but it’s all long term, nothing stops the noise right now. It’s not only frustrating but I know how hard it is for me to feel the way I felt before this all started.
It takes months or even years, so it really makes me angry and I want to cry all the time because I feel like I’m living in a nightmare. Earplugs at night would be a great option for some, but I get headaches from anything on my head, headbands, scarfs, glasses, anything and earplugs definitely aren’t going to help, besides I like to hear things that DO matter and it’s absurd anyway that you have to wear earplugs in your own home.
I will be going away for a bit next week, but I hoped I’d feel great and I would be able to do some stuff, but I feel like it’s going to be me crashing at my mom’s house and sleeping a lot, it’s a shame.
The only option I see now is move somewhere else, even though you’re not sure what you’re getting yourself into and I don’t really want to, not like this.
I did get some proof, make sure your volume isn’t very low because then it will sounds like it’s nothing, ofcourse, it’s really loud and if it’s not loud at all, it’s because your volume isn’t high enough. 😉 My mom thought it sounded like someone loading a gun and my dad said it sounded like a kid playing with wooden cubes. I don’t know what’s up with that, but it’s a kid running around and my lamp rattling because it’s so loud. The whole room is shaking when it happens. The camera did a perfect job catching the noise exactly the way I hear it and I sent it as proof, so in the end, there will be a solution, but it doesn’t change anything right now, sadly.
Don’t mind the video, it’s about the noise. I can’t believe I haven’t thought of this before. I mean, it’s only been 2+ weeks, lol.
I hope they will come up with a solution soon, maybe give them a fine every day, then they’ll probably try to keep it under control, lol.
Have you ever been through something like this? Something that was making you feel worse but was out of your control?